Saturday, January 12, 2013

Hmm...What Kind of Cheese Goes With 'Whine'?

So I have been a little stressed out lately, some of which may be my doing (signing up for too much fun stuff!)  to things that are necessary (twice weekly trips to the next town over for allergy shots for my son!) to things that I am patiently enduring (trying to sell a house and having to clean and vacate at the drop of a hat to have a realtor show it!) and, uh, oh yeah, trying to carve out time to actually 'school' my kids. 

Is it too early for wine?

Or should I say....WHINE?

If any of you can stand to hear a grown woman whine, then please. Spare your self the rest of this blog and go do something that makes you happy happy happy.

First, let me just say I am a pretty solid gal.  Not a whole lot gets to me. But the past several days I have noticed something that just really 'gets me'...judgement.

Judgement of what kind of church people attend.  (I know, right? Kind of crazy...judging what kind of church people attend.) Hey, if you are attending church, that's great!  And if someone else's church isn't your cup of tea, well, go find yourself another cup of tea because they have every right to choose how they worship.  And the judgemental thing? Not a good look on Christians.

Judgement of where someone is from, geographically. Particularly if you are from the South, oh Honey,...I realize Honey Boo Boo is not a great representative of all Southerners.  What gets me is when people who aren't from the South but are forced to live in the South want to bash the South...the food, the customs, the dialect, the mannerisms...I don't know about you, but I was raised in the South and one thing I was taught was "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all." (Of course, I just violated that one with this whole post, didn't I?)  To me, that is like going into someone's home and standing in their living room saying "I can't BELIEVE you think this carpet goes with those drapes. And who buys that kind of couch anymore? <eyeroll>"   I think I have come to the realization that those people who do the bashing...they pretty much aren't happy ANYWHERE. 

And this one is becoming a growing trend...judging what kind of food other people eat. White bread, non-organic, processed, sugar, salt...spare me.  I am all for healthy choices. And I am trying to limit all of those things in our diets.  But it is so disheartening to sit around and hear other women pass judgement on others who don't (or can't afford to) buy organic, grass-fed, range-free, raw whatever.  Now, let me just say again...I am all for healthy lifestyles and if I could afford to, I would buy more of those products.  But when your eyes roll when you are describing how someone else served you WHITE BREAD at their home...that's not okay. 

And Barbie is not evil.  Just dress her respectably and call it a day. Your daughter won't wind up being a stripper, I promise.

Good gracious, life is hard enough. I don't know about you, but there are days when we women, especially homeschool moms, feel beat up and pressured by our choices.   We should have each others backs and support each other.

I promise, I don't care if you feed your kids Ramen noodles, let them play with naked Barbies and don't even go to church or if you have a Yankee accent so sharp you could slice a tomato with it.  It's about the heart.

Be an encouragement for someone today.   Instead of 'tearing down', how about doing some 'building up'?

Sigh.   There you go.  Should I have asked for a little cheese to go with my 'whine'?


  1. You need to read Todd Wilson's books. He writes how homeschool moms need to be real. His books are a real encouragement, especially on those days when I feel I haven't done anything right.

    1. Thanks for the suggestion! I will have to check those books out. I agree...let's all be real. We all know our kids won't explode if they eat a Happy Meal. ;)

  2. Oh boy can I agree with the church statement. As we've spoken before, I know when I'm asked that question that admitting to going to a Catholic church is the kiss of death for some circles. Oh and that I quit homeschooling and now work... that's another kiss of death. Judgement sucks - but nearly as much as the people who do it. Hang in there!

    1. I think that is so crazy. Church is church! And maybe some moms judge going your going back to work because they wish they could do the same? ;) Thanks for the encouragement, Jen! :D