"Don't get involved in 'kid stuff'."
That's my rule...kid arguements, disagreements, etc. Let them work it out.
Not to get into details...but sometimes your kid looks to you for help and you see in their eyes that you can't say no. Sometimes the cruelty is too much. Sometimes the words are too painful.
I tried to talk myself out of it. I don't want to be one of 'those' moms. I was not successful.
So I went and Got Involved.
I was calm. I was nice. And I was to the point. I stood up for my kid when he felt like he didn't have anyone on his side.
When I got back home...he smiled.
Don't worry kid. If you need me...I've got your back.
That's my new rule.